Growth and Self-Awareness

Everyone has the capacity for growth, and for self-awareness through an honest encounter with reality. When we don't avoid issues but meet them directly, always trying to resolve them, they become fewer and fewer.
(Daily Reflections, 1 April)
29 August 2015

Pick Your Battles

Pick your battles wisely. 

Don't quibble over things that don't really matter. 

We have enough big issues in life with which to deal.

(Joel Osteen, Become A Better You, p. 153)

18 June 2014

Dating

... the less [time one spends in addressing] ... problems in a dating relationship, the less likely these problems will be easy to deal with in marriage...

Photo: Mr. Dickie

... if you are in a dating relationship where you do not confront issues as they arise, you set yourself up for heartache later. ... [How someone] responds to confrontation helps you diagnose what kind of person he[/she] is. (Cloud & Townsend, Boundaries Face To Face, p. 204-205) 9 July 2013

Denial

Typically, people in denial are not good processors. They do not explore problems and issues; they have little curiosity about them. They state their denial and change the subject. (Cloud & Townsend, Boundaries Face To Face, p. 149) 20 April 2013

Issues

... we can be in emotional contact but don't have to react to someone else's issues. (Touchstones, 13 December) 8 March 2013

Put It In Writing

One way to discover the real nature of one's personal issues is to write them out in detail.  Putting our problems into words on paper, where we can look at them and correct them as our attitudes change can be most useful in helping us to see things clearly.  (after One Day At At A Time In Al-Anon, 14 April) 24 May 2012